Stress…!!!
16th May, 2010 
by graywolfie in Rant ~ Ranting, Pregnancy / Birth / Baby / Toddler
Last wk was terrible…a very tough wk for both Sweetie & me…I dun even know wat happened…
She woke up happily on Monday morning…got ready to go to school…my parents drove her to school…but something happened – but I dun know wat – she refused to go to class…she cried & cried…my parents were shocked…they didn’t know wat to do…Sweetie cried a lot…even threw her snack box & water bottle on the floor…it’s the 1st time such things happened…! In the end…they brought her back home…
For the rest of the wk I fetch her to school…but it was no better…she still cry…dun want to go into class…but I made her go in…we stood outside the classroom for 1hr on Tuesday…talking to her coaxing her…finally I pass her to the teacher…she cried super loudly for nearly 10mins (I was still outside – heartache)…Wednesday came…same thing…stood outside the class for nearly 1hr…crying but softer…handed her to the teacher…& she cried…also very loudly…Thursday was better…stood outside the class for nearly 1/2hr…when I pass her to the teacher she cried for awhile…but stopped in less then 5mins…
I did ask her (many times) why she dun want to go to class…but she can’t give me a reason…I asked if any the teachers or friends ‘bullied’ her (although I didn’t put it across like tat)…but there was none…nothing different happened…why the sudden change…?!
It seems like a small issue…but its causing stress to me…I dun know wat’s wrong…& so I can’t ‘help’ her…it hurts me to see her cry…not wanting to go to class…but every time after settling down…I can see (they have a CCTV so parents outside can see wat’s going on in class) tat she’s enjoying herself…singing…doing crafts…playing…
Wat will the coming wk be like…??
May 17th, 2010 at 5:51 am
I think it’s just a simple matter that she doesn’t want to go. Who knows why–maybe it’s just a power struggle.
The advice of my mom, who worked for a school and daycare at one time, is just to take her, tell her goodbye like any normal day, and walk away. She’ll realize soon enough that fussing doesn’t really get her what she wants. She said that the kids who routinely caused a fuss when being dropped off where the kids whose parents made a big deal about it week after week, but that it’s easy enough to put a stop to.
Anyway, that’s just her advice. I hope you figure it out, and please don’t agonize over it–she’ll outgrow it soon enough.